Autumn is Ours

I passed a tree today
With leaves so red
I sucked in my breath.
I stopped for a few pictures
Taken half heartedly
Already knowing that sending
Them to you
Will be the most unsatisfying substitution
For standing with my hand in yours
Gazing up at the flaming leaves
Looking down at the burning ground
And simply talking
About how autumn is ours.

Outfit: Simply Stylish

American Eagle Outfitters Men’s Leather Belt ($18). Dockers® Jean Cut Khaki All Seasons Slim-Fit Tech Pants ($36). Old Navy Slim-Fit Built-In Flex Chambray Everyday Shirt ($37).  Nautica Portofino Stainless Steel Watch ($68). Clarks Men’s Bushacre 2 Chukka Boot ($62).

Sometimes the best style is keeping things as simple and classic as possible. A timeless chambray shirt paired with dark british khaki chinos always looks good. Any time on anyone. The details like the jean cut of the chinos and the dark leather belt and boots keep this outfit on the rugged classic end of the style spectrum. A quintessential dive watch is the finishing touch. Simple. Timeless. Classic. Stylish.

It’s ok

When you finally say those six scary words 
Quietly, out Loud
To your best friend
As you lie on your back
In the dark,
Your fear is a presence
“I think I might be gay”
I want to wrap you in my love
Give to you
The strength of my heart
And say,
“It’s ok”
When you’re terrified of losing your family,
Friends and Life
And the sentencing of your Soul
To eternal hell
Makes you cut your own skin
To feel a separate, easier pain,
As a way to face your fears
I want to pull you behind me
Protect your heart
As a bear guards her cubs
And say,
“It’s ok”
When you slosh through the dregs
Of your Religion
Feeling the power of your Faith,
Once unshakeable,
Slip from your grasp
Because you can’t, no, you won’t, lie
About your basic truth
I want to take your trembling hands in mine
Pass to you
The peace of my soul
And simply say,
“Valiant girl, it’s ok”
When you search for a loophole
In the Damnation
Laid out in one verse after another
But find judgment
Instead of Grace
And always more questions
Even the ministers cannot seem to answer
I want to look deep into your clear blue eyes
Cry for you
The tears of absolution
And say,
“Brave seeker, it’s ok”
When you turn to other sources of wisdom
Searching for Peace
Blazing your own beautiful path
To unshakeable truth
And you find solid ground
Among the trees and the poets
Amid the philosophers and stars
I want to lie next to you on the warm summer ground
In the dark
Crying in awe at the grandeur of the universe
And, soft as a whisper, say,
“See? It’s ok”
When you stand your own ground, fast and firm
In your Truth
And you won’t back down
Or accept an inferior brand of love
The scarlet sound of
“I love you anyway”
Because you don’t need Forgiveness for being yourself
I want to cheer for you
Scream myself hoarse
Praising your fierceness, bravery and courage
And say,
“That’s it! It’s ok.”
When you sit with a counselor digging still to
Find your Worth
Leaning into the pain
In search of freedom
From a lifetime of doubt and shame
And you finally say those words, out loud,
“I’m proud of who I am”
I want to sing with a choir of angels
“It is well,
It is well with my soul”
And hear you say,
“I’m ok”
When you look in the mirror on a
Fitting room Wall
And see yourself, Whole
And feel compassion and love
Replacing all the doubt and the shame
And you gently say those words, out loud
Affirming my worth, “I see you”
I want to wrap myself in your love
Finally feel warmth
That heals my broken heart
And I’ll say,
“I’m ok”

Print a copy of this poem here.

Why You Should Wear A Watch and 10 Picks for Fall

Casio Field Watch ($92). Timex Ameritus Sport Watch ($49). Timex Expedition Field Chronograph Watch ($54). Skagen Signature Minimalist Watch ($95). Corgeut Automatic Mechanical Watch ($139). Nautica Portofino Stainless Steel Watch ($68). Seiko 5 Automatic Watch ($98). Timex Originals Tonal Watch ($20). Timex Fairfield Watch ($50). Casio Forester Watch ($20).

The thing that limits analog watches is also the single best argument for why you should wear one: they only do one thing. They tell time. That’s it.

Last year I was at a luncheon at a fancy country club for a work networking event. The host of the event introduced the first speaker, then stepped away from the podium and stood nearby while she talked. In the ten minutes she was speaking, the host checked his cell phone over a dozen times. It was impossible to tell if he was checking emails, getting texts, or watching his twitter feed. Or, you know, maybe he was just watching the time to keep the event on schedule. You couldn’t tell. That’s exactly the point.

Yes, your phone has a clock and you always have it with you. But there are some times when it is not appropriate to pull your phone out just to check the time. If that host had looked at his wrist a dozen times, everyone would have assumed he was worrying about the time.

The other benefit of wearing a watch is that they are a true accessory. No cell phone/pocket computer is ever going to be mistaken for a Rolex. No one wants to hear the origin story of your smartphone. But when I wear my throwback digital Casio, everyone remarks on having one like it when they were young. When I wear a square faced watch, people make note that it’s a bit unusual. I choose my watch each morning based on the rest of my outfit. When I’m hiking or kayaking, I don’t wear my dress watch. Likewise, I don’t wear a Nato strap to the symphony.

One last thing about a wrist watch. The universal gesture for “we’re almost finished here” is a glance to your wrist. It actually works even if you aren’t wearing a watch – try it sometime.

*Checks wrist*

Well, that about wraps it up, folks.

Evening Ritual: Cull & curate your daily photos

Most of us take photos all day and then barely look at them again. We “capture” so much of our day, taking multiple photos from every possible angle of everything in our lives from our food to our kids to our pets and our clothes. But out of all the photos we take each day, how many are actually worth keeping? 15 percent? 10?

The irony in this age of obsessive photo taking is that it is actually really hard at the end of the day to remember what happened. Have you ever actually tried to mentally walk back through the chronology of your day? Unless you practice, it’s very hard to remember what happened and when.

Here’s a simple evening ritual that will take 5-10 minutes and will enhance your memory of your day while also keeping your life less cluttered.

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