Outfits: Holiday Parties

It can be hard to pick out an appropriate outfit for occasions like holiday parties.  Different types of parties call for different levels of dressiness.  And as a butch, it can be especially hard to decide how dressed up to get.  Worse, many of us fall into the trap of dressing like an old dude with baggy khakis and an ugly sweater and excusing ourselves by saying we are being “funny” or “ironic”.  This year you don’t have to dread every party because it’s awkward and uncomfortable to dress for.  Here we lay out good-looking outfits for three typical holiday party scenarios.

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A Day at the Lake

A long weekend like Memorial Day is a great chance for some time on the water, but not everyone is close to a beach. However, nearly every city or town does have a lake of some sort (either natural or manmade) nearby.  These lakes provide the perfect chance to escape while being close and accessible.  They are just right for a great day trip for hiking or a weekend camping trip.  But perhaps best of all, many have little beaches that are tailor made for spending a relaxing afternoon.

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Outfits: Visiting Her Family for Thanksgiving Day

thanksgiving outfit

Timex Easy Reader.  Lands End Twill Shirt.  St. John’s Bay Cardigan.  Thunderstruck Coffee Porter. Combatant Gentlemen Khaki Slim Straight Chinos.  G.H. Bass Dan Brass Belt.  Dockers Tussock Boot. Solmate Stars & Stripes Socks.

Visiting Her Family for the Holidays: Part 2


Family holidays are a long standing tradition.  We use specific times of the year as an excuse to all gather together.  Unfortunately, this extended period of togetherness can mean awkwardness or contention or exhaustion.  You might not know what to say when stuck in the family room all alone with her grandpa.  Or maybe you sit out of the way trying to not get underfoot and spend the whole weekend thinking her family hates you.  Maybe the kids ignore you.  Maybe the adults ignore you. Maybe you always say just the wrong thing.  This article will help you navigate some of those family hazards in new ways.  This year the family holiday can be a time of wonderful memories and deep connection.

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Visiting Her Family for the Holidays: Part 1


Ah, the holidays.  Tis the season for family gatherings.  For many of us, that means traveling long distances and spending a lot of quality time with family.  Her family.  This may seem obvious, but during these extended stretches of family time we should act different than we would in our own homes.  I don’t mean that you should be disingenuous.  I don’t mean you should pretend to be “best friends” or worse “roommates”.  I mean that you should make an effort to act like your best self.  Perhaps even like a gentleman.  Fact of the matter is that whether you mean to or not, you are going to make an impression on her family during this visit.  Here’s how to make it a good impression.

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