Better Dressed Butch: Versatile Casual Winter/Spring Wardrobe – Part 2

Now that we have a foundation of simple and versatile pieces in our wardrobe, we can begin to add variety.  We can use color, patterns, texture, layers and accessories to give us even more options for pulling great looking outfits together.  This is where we can really begin to develop personal style.

As we discussed in Part 1, adding a single item to our foundational wardrobe now gives us many additional options.  Adding variety also keeps the wardrobe from feeling stale.  As the saying goes, “Variety is the spice of life.”  Everyone likes variety and being able to pull a patterned shirt out one day and a plain shirt the next day somehow feels nice.  So here are some examples of items we can use to spice up our foundational wardrobe.

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Better Dressed Butch: Versatile Casual Winter/Spring Wardrobe – Part 1

One of the hardest parts of starting to dress better is putting outfits together.  Most people think of clothes in terms of outfits, so when they go shopping for new clothes, they usually buy a couple of new outfits without thinking about their overall wardrobe.  This approach doesn’t work.  You’re left with the same old wardrobe, plus two new outfits.  So you now have two days that you feel awesome in your new outfits, and all of the other days you are stuck with your same old broken wardrobe.   This approach is not going to get you to the place where you are well-dressed every day.  Even if you bought enough new outfits for several days, you are going to end up bored with wearing the same several outfits over and over again.

There’s a better way to build your wardrobe.  If you approach your wardrobe as a whole, you can buy individual pieces that all work together.  And if you have assembled a wardrobe where the pieces can be worn in multiple outfits, you will be a better dressed butch much more quickly.  Let’s look at how to build an affordable, stylish and versatile wardrobe that will give you a ton of options with a minimal amount of items.   Continue reading “Better Dressed Butch: Versatile Casual Winter/Spring Wardrobe – Part 1”

Outfits: Visiting Her Family for Thanksgiving Day

thanksgiving outfit

Timex Easy Reader.  Lands End Twill Shirt.  St. John’s Bay Cardigan.  Thunderstruck Coffee Porter. Combatant Gentlemen Khaki Slim Straight Chinos.  G.H. Bass Dan Brass Belt.  Dockers Tussock Boot. Solmate Stars & Stripes Socks.

Fall Rain Boots

“In every real man, a child is hidden that wants to play.”  

~Friedrich Nietzsche~

I love autumn.  The cooler days, the crisp air, the crackle of leaves underfoot and the many overcast or rainy days make me inordinately happy.  Remember the childhood joy of splashing through puddles?Turns out, its still fun!  These boots are all waterproof and are just what you need to reclaim that puddle-jumping joy, even if its only during your commute.

Fall Rain Boots

SOLO Rain Boot ($40).  Bogs Eugene Chukka Waterproof Leather Boot ($95).  Palladium Pampa Sport Cuff WPN Rain Boot ($90).  Converse Chuck Taylor All Star Hi Rubber Boot ($35).  Tretorn Gunnar Rain Shoe ($50).  Rockport Rugged Bucks ($107).  Honeywell Shrimp Boot ($25).  KEEN The Ace WP Boot ($95).  Bogs Johnny Chelsea Waterproof Leather Boot ($155).  Helly Hansen Midsund 2 Rain Boot ($42).   Palladium Pampa Cuff WP Lux Rain Boot ($65).  Rockport Redemption Road Waterproof Boot ($58).  Hunter Original Short ($119).  The Original L.L. Bean Boot, Rubber Moc ($89).  Tretorn Wings Rain Boot ($33).

 

Better Dressed Butch

I’ve been butch since birth. Sure, my mom bought me a blue dress with white polka dots to match her and my sister on Easter when I was about 7. That outfit even included a white, wide-brim hat and lacy white socks. My private school upbringing also meant wearing a skirt five days a week for the first 18 years of my life. Oh, plus Sunday for church. So that left my weeknights and weekend to express my (ahem) “personal style.” Let’s just say it was lacking. Actually, it stayed lacking until I was about 28 years old. My uniform consisted of ill-fitting graphic t-shirts (that I convinced myself were clever), jeans, and Adidas sneakers. Plus hooded sweatshirts in the winter. I know. Sigh.

Let me begin my embarrassingly weak defense by stating that I was a sheltered child. And I am not sure you know what it is like to grow up lower-middle class in a rural area. Oh and gay. I’m not throwing that out there as some special “look-at-me” card. I’m just saying that my struggle to find a way to express myself was deepened by the fact that I wasn’t even sure how to articulate my identity with words, much less with my clothing. Plop that down in a locale that is dominated by camo (and not the Nick Wooster kind either), flannel, polyester and Walmart specials, and you will begin to understand what I had to work to overcome.

The Achilles heel, though, is that I was fat. Not like, kinda chubby or a little chunky. More like, belly hanging over belt fat.  Also, really short. I’m 5’2″. Let’s all agree that short and fat is not the best foundation for winning the “best-dressed” award. Continue reading “Better Dressed Butch”