One of the hardest parts of starting to dress better is putting outfits together. Most people think of clothes in terms of outfits, so when they go shopping for new clothes, they usually buy a couple of new outfits without thinking about their overall wardrobe. This approach doesn’t work. You’re left with the same old wardrobe, plus two new outfits. So you now have two days that you feel awesome in your new outfits, and all of the other days you are stuck with your same old broken wardrobe. This approach is not going to get you to the place where you are well-dressed every day. Even if you bought enough new outfits for several days, you are going to end up bored with wearing the same several outfits over and over again.
There’s a better way to build your wardrobe. If you approach your wardrobe as a whole, you can buy individual pieces that all work together. And if you have assembled a wardrobe where the pieces can be worn in multiple outfits, you will be a better dressed butch much more quickly. Let’s look at how to build an affordable, stylish and versatile wardrobe that will give you a ton of options with a minimal amount of items. Continue reading “Better Dressed Butch: Versatile Casual Winter/Spring Wardrobe – Part 1”
“In every real man, a child is hidden that wants to play.”
I love autumn. The cooler days, the crisp air, the crackle of leaves underfoot and the many overcast or rainy days make me inordinately happy. Remember the childhood joy of splashing through puddles?Turns out, its still fun! These boots are all waterproof and are just what you need to reclaim that puddle-jumping joy, even if its only during your commute.
SOLO Rain Boot ($40). Bogs Eugene Chukka Waterproof Leather Boot ($95). Palladium Pampa Sport Cuff WPN Rain Boot ($90). Converse Chuck Taylor All Star Hi Rubber Boot ($35). Tretorn Gunnar Rain Shoe ($50). Rockport Rugged Bucks ($107). Honeywell Shrimp Boot ($25). KEEN The Ace WP Boot ($95). Bogs Johnny Chelsea Waterproof Leather Boot ($155). Helly Hansen Midsund 2 Rain Boot ($42). Palladium Pampa Cuff WP Lux Rain Boot ($65). Rockport Redemption Road Waterproof Boot ($58). Hunter Original Short ($119). The Original L.L. Bean Boot, Rubber Moc ($89). Tretorn Wings Rain Boot ($33).
I’ve been butch since birth. Sure, my mom bought me a blue dress with white polka dots to match her and my sister on Easter when I was about 7. That outfit even included a white, wide-brim hat and lacy white socks. My private school upbringing also meant wearing a skirt five days a week for the first 18 years of my life. Oh, plus Sunday for church. So that left my weeknights and weekend to express my (ahem) “personal style.” Let’s just say it was lacking. Actually, it stayed lacking until I was about 28 years old. My uniform consisted of ill-fitting graphic t-shirts (that I convinced myself were clever), jeans, and Adidas sneakers. Plus hooded sweatshirts in the winter. I know. Sigh.
Let me begin my embarrassingly weak defense by stating that I was a sheltered child. And I am not sure you know what it is like to grow up lower-middle class in a rural area. Oh and gay. I’m not throwing that out there as some special “look-at-me” card. I’m just saying that my struggle to find a way to express myself was deepened by the fact that I wasn’t even sure how to articulate my identity with words, much less with my clothing. Plop that down in a locale that is dominated by camo (and not the Nick Wooster kind either), flannel, polyester and Walmart specials, and you will begin to understand what I had to work to overcome.
The Achilles heel, though, is that I was fat. Not like, kinda chubby or a little chunky. More like, belly hanging over belt fat. Also, really short. I’m 5’2″. Let’s all agree that short and fat is not the best foundation for winning the “best-dressed” award. Continue reading “Better Dressed Butch”
When I began to identify as “butch,” I started deliberately changing my appearance. I had always been the tomboy, the sporty one. I grew up wearing a lot of androgynous clothes, mainly jeans and t-shirts. In college, I grew a little more confident and occasionally wore men’s button up shirts and started buying men’s jeans. It took me long into my twenties to really begin to claim my identity. I went through a cargo shorts phase and then discovered men’s fashion blogs and started slowly changing my style. There were a lot of obvious outward changes to my look during those years. But some of the things that most helped me to claim my identity were the little things that no one would ever know about. Looking back, I often wish I had been confident enough to make these little changes sooner as they really helped me to own my butch identity. Here are some of the little things that meant the most in my journey from tomboy to full blown butch. Continue reading “The Little Things”