Everyday Carry Dopp Kit

You’ve heard of Everyday Carry, right?  The site features what people carry with them everyday.  While that might sound odd to the newcomer, there is something compelling about seeing what other people consider their essential gear for a day.  These items have come to be known as our “everyday carry” or “EDC” for short.

A butch should have her own EDC which includes those essential items we want with us at all times.  I break down my EDC into items in my pockets and items in my EDC Dopp kit.  I keep some items like my pocket knife, pocket notebook, and handkerchief in my pockets at all times.  But I never want to be the guy with bulging pockets and there are many items that I need but only occasionally.  This is where the EDC Dopp kit comes in handy. Continue reading “Everyday Carry Dopp Kit”

Travel: explore your own region

Travel is one of those activities imbued with a dreamy sense of going far, far away and having a “once in a lifetime” experience.  You start to research travel and before you know it, you’ve decided what you really want is to live out of a backpack for a year while you travel across Europe and southeast Asia while living on $0.39 a day and escaping the droning hum of daily life.

And because this is obviously a huge undertaking, you do nothing.  Ok, maybe you change your desktop backdrop at work to something “inspiring” like a photo of Angkor Wat.  And maybe you grow a resentful little chip on your shoulder for a few weeks about working for the man and your “boring” life.  But you don’t take any action because you’ve convinced yourself that “travel” can only mean something unusual, spectacular, and complicated.  But that isn’t true.   Continue reading “Travel: explore your own region”

Butc(h)ome: Why You Should Have Houseplants

Houseplants.  Pa has them.  Gram has them.  Your office lobby has them.  The airport has them.  Your doctor’s office has them.  Even the mall has them.  They are seemingly everywhere, yet many of us can’t claim to have even one in our home.

Houseplants are beautiful.  Among many other benefits, they filter the air.  There are varieties for every single situation. They are cheap and easily accessible.  And they are a perfect way to add life to your house or apartment.  They make every room feel more complete and they make your house or apartment feel like a home.  So why don’t you have any?  It’s time to liven up your home with a houseplant or two or five.  This guide will help you decide which houseplant is right for you.

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Better Dressed Butch

I’ve been butch since birth. Sure, my mom bought me a blue dress with white polka dots to match her and my sister on Easter when I was about 7. That outfit even included a white, wide-brim hat and lacy white socks. My private school upbringing also meant wearing a skirt five days a week for the first 18 years of my life. Oh, plus Sunday for church. So that left my weeknights and weekend to express my (ahem) “personal style.” Let’s just say it was lacking. Actually, it stayed lacking until I was about 28 years old. My uniform consisted of ill-fitting graphic t-shirts (that I convinced myself were clever), jeans, and Adidas sneakers. Plus hooded sweatshirts in the winter. I know. Sigh.

Let me begin my embarrassingly weak defense by stating that I was a sheltered child. And I am not sure you know what it is like to grow up lower-middle class in a rural area. Oh and gay. I’m not throwing that out there as some special “look-at-me” card. I’m just saying that my struggle to find a way to express myself was deepened by the fact that I wasn’t even sure how to articulate my identity with words, much less with my clothing. Plop that down in a locale that is dominated by camo (and not the Nick Wooster kind either), flannel, polyester and Walmart specials, and you will begin to understand what I had to work to overcome.

The Achilles heel, though, is that I was fat. Not like, kinda chubby or a little chunky. More like, belly hanging over belt fat.  Also, really short. I’m 5’2″. Let’s all agree that short and fat is not the best foundation for winning the “best-dressed” award. Continue reading “Better Dressed Butch”

The Little Things

Butch Style

When I began to identify as “butch,” I started deliberately changing my appearance.  I had always been the tomboy, the sporty one.  I grew up wearing a lot of androgynous clothes, mainly jeans and t-shirts.  In college, I grew a little more confident and occasionally wore men’s button up shirts and started buying men’s jeans.  It took me long into my twenties to really begin to claim my identity.  I went through a cargo shorts phase and then discovered men’s fashion blogs and started slowly changing my style.  There were a lot of obvious outward changes  to my look during those years.  But some of the things that most helped me to claim my identity were the little things that no one would ever know about.  Looking back, I often wish I had been confident enough to make these little changes sooner as they really helped me to own my butch identity.  Here are some of the little things that meant the most in my journey from tomboy to full blown butch.   Continue reading “The Little Things”